The problem with inner peace is that it goes to quickly. If you want inner peace that lasts, make use of these 10 tips, based on Vipasssana and Buddhism.
It’s the most important quality a person can possess.
Over the past 10 years billions of people have started meditating because they want to experience inner peace.
Very many of those people have succeeded.
It’s easy to see how.
Today, we have access to meditation retreats, health spas, and all manner of luxury destinations where we can get away and find our Zen.
THE DAILY MEDITATION’s guide to inner peace makes things even easier.
And then there are guided meditations, yoga, tai chi…
Creating inner peace is relatively simple for many people.
Creating sustainable inner peace is a different kettle of fish.
As easily as we can make ourselves feel good, it is doubly easy to make ourselves feel bad.
Problem is, there are simply too many sources of stress, too many negatives that sap-away at our minds. Against this torrent of troubles, we sink back down into the abyss of stress, anxiety and, for some, even depression.
That’s why most tips for inner peace simply don’t work, at least not for long.
Take a look around the internet and you’ll find thousands of tips on how to keep your inner peace.
Most of those tips come down to the same basic things:
- Learn mindfulness.
- Reduce screen-time
- Take a break from work
- Get enough exercise
- Eat a nutritious diet
Great. Except it doesn’t work.
All those tips will fail you sooner or later. That’s why people soon jump ship. They’ll quit one diet for another, stop doing one exercise to learn another and so on.
People constantly search for new solutions. Those solutions are popular for a few years. Then they’ll fall by the wayside.
We’ve never found a permanent solution to creating inner peace and removing stress.
Why after thousands of years have we still not found a permanent source of happiness, contentment, and inner peace?
Because we have been searching in the wrong place.
We humans seem predisposed to search for answers outside ourselves.
Everything we ever need is already inside of us. Trick is realising it.
When we take control of our minds we find the true source of eternal happiness, contentment and inner peace.
Inner peace come from within and should stay there
It is easy to create inner peace (click to see how).
It’s harder to maintain inner peace.
The reason so many people struggle to maintain inner peace is that society saps away at our strength.
How many times have you been through this situation:
You feel stressed so you take a break.
After 20 minutes, you feel good. You carry on with your day.
As you go about your day you gradually get warn down until you lose your inner peace.
Then you’re stressed either permanently or until you take another break.
How many times have you experienced that situation?
What if you could stop that from happening? What if you could create inner peace and then actually sustain it?
There is a way.
Let me show you.
How to create inner peace that lasts
We’re agreed that we can create inner peace quite easily, right? But as we go through the day we come across sources of negative energy that sap away at us. And before long we lose inner peace.
The logical solution to this is to prevent negative energies from interfering with our inner peace.
We need to maintain our equanimity of mind while going about our day.
To do that, we need to separate what happens outside from what happens inside.
Why external influences enter and influence the mind
Inner peace is in the mind. But the outside world pushes our inner peace out of us.
Reality enters the mind by way of the senses. Sight, smell, tasty, sound, touch. Through these senses the outside world enters us and comes into contact with the mind.
Once the world enters the mind, it influences our thoughts and emotions. A loud voice may produce feelings of anxiety, for instance. Those feelings of anxiety then affect us inwardly. We start to think and feel differently.
Once we are thinking and feeling differently, we change our actions. Because we’re feeling anxious, for instance, we are unable to focus and so are unproductive. We may even act in negative ways. And when we act in negative ways, we produce negative results which make us feel worse. This becomes a vicious cycle.
The problem here is that everything influences everything else. A negative thought produces a negative feeling. A negative feeling produces a negative action. Negative actions lead to negative results, which lead to worse feelings, and so on.
This is how many people exist.
They exist in a frenzy of stimuli, both internally and externally. They become like a chemical reaction. Thoughts leads to actions leading to consequences leading to feelings leading to… [etc.]
It’s like dominoes. One thing automatically leads to another and so on, with zero control.
For inner peace, we need to stop everything from influencing everything else. That’s because our thoughts / feelings / emotions / reality only effect us when they work in tandem.
- An external stimuli, such as a sound, will not affect us unless we allow it to influence our moods, thoughts emotions, etc.
- A thought will not affect us unless we allow it to influence our emotions, actions etc.
- An emotion will not really effect us unless we allow it to influence our thoughts, actions, etc.
When we see a thing for what it is (a thought for just a thought, a feeling for just a feeling) we stop these things from affecting us.
Using this wisdom, we can start to create sustainable inner peace.
Follow these 10 steps to create sustainable inner peace
*You will probably want to read this guide to Vipassana before continuing.
The key to creating sustainable inner peace is to see things for what they are. This stops the vicious cycle of reactivity, creating sustainable inner peace.
The first five steps are about perceiving the true nature of reality via the senses.
1: Hear sound for the pure energy it is:
Sounds can be the source of a great deal of stress.
A raised voice can immediately create tension, a tightening of the chest, and short breath.
This is because when we hear certain sounds we allow our minds to run wild. Instead of just saying that’s a sound we imagine all sorts of things, which produces stress.
Hear a sound for what it is.
When hearing a stressful sound think, “It’s just a sound” and meditate on the pure energy of the sound.
- See with your mind, not just with your eyes:
Vision is the sense we pay most attention to. And it robs us of our inner peace. Even seeing one simgle angry face can have a profound effect on our moods.
Let’s change that.
When seeing something stressful remind yourself, “This is just a visual, it isn’t true reality, just one part of a much bigger picture.”
Your eyes will deceive you. Do not trust them.
- You can’t touch this:
Touch can be a source of many distractions. So much as an itch can drive some people wild.
When your mind is constantly being drawn to the sense of touch, remind yourself, “it’s just touch.”
Be mindful of the feeling of touch, but don’t let the feeling of touch effect your mind.
*Use this guide to body scan meditation to master physical sensations.
- It’s a matter of taste:
For many people, tastes can cause great distress. That’s partly because tastes can indicate something wrong with the body. And we all know what it feels like to be distracted by a yucky flavor.
When you’re distracted by a taste, meditate on it and remind yourself that it is just a taste and does not mean anything.
- Smell with your mind:
Scent is one of the most emotionally provocative senses of all. Scents bring up memories. And memories can lead to all manner of emotions.
I personally practice aromatherapy a lot because I absolutely love different scents. But sometimes, scents are unwanted, and can stir-up painful memories.
This happens because we allow the scents to immediately affect the mind. When we stop and mindfully say, “That’s just a scent” we prevent the scent from interfering with the mind.
- Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your unguarded thoughts:
Too many people suffer from negative thought depression.
Buddha said that our thoughts hurt us more than anything. And anyone who has ever suffered from depression knows how true that is (me, for one).
The entire problem with thoughts is that we place too much value in them.
We assume that thoughts must be true (which is rarely the case). When we think negatively we assume we must be feeling down. When we think bad thoughts about other people we think we must be bad people.
A thought is just a thought.
The moment we remember that a thought is just a thought and nothing more we gain control.
The key to thoughts is to not allow them to influence anything else. Let a thought be a thought. Do not let it become a feeling, a belief, or an action.
- Feelings / emotions:
“New beginnings are often disguised as painful feelings”—Lao Tzu.
Feelings work like wordless thoughts. When most people feel an emotion, they assume there must be a reason for it. They then start to look for the reason for it. That means they are intentionally bring up negative thoughts in order to justify a negative feeling. And those negative thoughts and feelings soon enough lead to negative actions.
A feeling is just a feeling. Let a feeling be a feeling. Nothing more. Mindfully observe the feeling. Say, “This is just a feeling”. Let it be what it is. Do not let it become something more.
Einstein said imagination is the preview of life’s coming attractions. Fair enough, he prove himself wrong when he failed to see that his imaginations would lead to the coming attraction of war. But that’s for another article.
Imaginations can cause a great deal of suffering. Because when we imagine things we tend to sink into those imaginings. The mind momentarily slips into the alternative reality of our imagination. And that can cause pain or pleasure or anywhere in between.
- Physical sensations:
Physical sensations are psychosomatic. For instance, we feel anxious and in response the chest tightens.
These physical sensations are incredibly influential on our minds. We have learned from birth to associate certain physical sensations with certain emotions, such as when we associate anger with a clenched fist.
Because we have learned this, a physical sensation can very quickly cause an emotion. And it needn’t.
When we feel a physical sensation we should remind ourselves that it is just a physical sensation and that it does not signify anything.
When we do this we stop those physical sensations from becoming emotions.
- Self Talk:
Self talk can massively influence every other part of the mind.
When we tell ourselves we’re amazing, we will naturally respond by standing tall, thinking positively, feeling confidence, and acting in confident ways. And all because of positive self talk.
When our self talk is negative we can suffer terrible consequences.
We can take control of self talk and either intentionally be positive or simply not engage in self talk at all. Most self help gurus would advocate the former. Buddhist monks would advocate the latter.
Either way, when we remember that we are creating our self talk we remember that we can change it. We then have power over our self talk, and can use it to our benefit.
These 10 tips allow us to create sustainable inner peace.
The mind should balance in the restful space between the senses. There it can stay pure and untouched, calm and with equanimity. Then we will enjoy sustainable inner peace.