What Your Kids Rule Breaking Actually Says About Them

When we were little kids our parents brought us up to be “nice” and “polite”, while our friends and siblings taught us to strive for individuality.

We learnt from an early age to be free to express ourselves but also to act in “good” ways that were acceptable to society.

It’s that constant flux between individuality and self expression that’s fuelled our self growth into maturity.


We’ve wrestled between being accepted and being our own unique individual selves.

When we were young we were the good ones, the polite kids that made everyone smile, the ones teachers called good students.

When we were told to say yes, we said, yes, even though a lot of the time a fire in our belly begged us to scream “no!” And we walked the path that our parents and teachers told us to walk.

Oh, we were the good ones. We never broke any rules. We never did anything unexpected. Because we’d hate to let anyone down. But with every “good” thing we did we felt anger in ourselves because we were living the life they told us to live, not the life we truly believed in.

Life wasn’t bad. It was sweet and sour. The sweetness was being the favourite and being rewarded for being a puppet. The sour was the bitterness in our mouths every time we stopped ourselves from being ourselves.

Sometimes we spoke out. Sometimes. Sometimes we raised our voices. Sometimes. Sometimes we shouted. Sometimes. And sometimes we got plain mad. Sometimes.

But everyone loved us because we were all so easy to get along with (read: We did what other people wanted).

We knew deep down in our souls that we yearned to live lives of originality. But how do you break free and become a genuine individual when you’re been taught as a kid to live for the satisfaction of others?

Our parents loved us. That’s why they taught us to be good. Because they understood the crucifix that society hangs you on when you dare to be yourself. And they never wanted to see us nailed to that cross.

But what they never understood is that being good isn’t being happy. What they failed to realise is that a life or worth is a life that dares to break the rules, to smash through the boundaries that life enforces on you.

Being happy and genuinely feeling great deep down in your soul requires that you liberate yourself from society’s prisons.

Part of that is breaking the rules.

It’s a damn shame that no one thought to tell us the truth when we were growing up. The truth is that yes, there are rules, but your genuine individual self is found in the breaking of those rules.

And then the unthinkable happened. We, the ones who had been good, fell behind. Those people who broke the rules, who acted not in the “good” way but in the selfish way, they were the ones who got ahead, because they weren’t doing what everyone else wanted, they were doing what serve them themselves.

And finally we caught on. We saw through the delusion that we’d been brought up to believe. We realised we need to smash boundaries and break the rules. We realised that we need, deserve, and simply must fight to be ourselves and to do what is right not for them but for us.

We broke the rules. We smashed the barriers. We dared to be our individual selves. We became the strong people.

Strong people don’t act in ways that create happiness for others. They act in ways that create happiness for themselves, because deep down they know they deserve their own happiness.

Strong people don’t live for the acceptance of others. They live for the acceptance of themselves. They live to feel justified in their souls, to know that they are the absolute number one person to themselves.

Strong people don’t fight for other people’s riches. They don’t slave to make the 1% richer while seeing their own bank accounts falling into the red and suddenly needing to repay a loan. They fight for their own wealth and screw everyone else because they know they deserve wealth.

Strong people don’t buy into other people ideals. They know deep down in their souls the ideals that matter to them. And they fight with tooth and nail to live up to those ideals.

The good people. The ones who were raised to be everyone else’s puppet. They… no… WE… have learnt that true strength is the strength to be your genuine self despite whatever life or society throws at you.

We have become the strong.

And now we are the leaders.

We are the ones who will set the rules for tomorrow. We are the ones who will smash the barriers and create new lives of genuine individual freedom.

We are the strong.



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Paul Martin Harrison

Paul Harrison is a meditation teacher, author and journalist based in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada. Paul has helped thousands of people to discover their true potential. Don’t miss Paul’s inspirational and enlightening book Journey To The Buddha Within You.