“How Can I Make Myself Happy?” You Asked. Here’s 10 Ways To be Happy

A reader wrote in and asked “How can I make myself happy?” Thanks for the question.Good news is there is plenty you can do in order to boost your happiness levels. Let’s take a look.


While travelling from my home in Oxford England to Toronto Canada I had the pleasure of talking to a very interesting Indian girl. I asked her what she loved the most about her home country.

She smiled brightly and said, “Well, I do not have a lot of money, but my quality of life is exceptional. I work as a meditation teacher. It’s a job I love. That makes me happy every day.”

IAfter chatting with my new friend, my mind was full of ideas about happy people and their happy habits.

I decided to do a lot of research to try and discover precisely what happy people do differently. Some of the results were truly surprising.

I came across hundreds of happy habits during my research (some a little obscure, including a man who spent one day a month living with his eyes closed, which he said heightened his senses).

My research led me to create this list of the top ten ways to make yourself happy.


So, thanks for asking “How can I make myself happy”. Here are the top 10 answers, which I’ve decided to write from the perspective of things happy people do differently. 

1: They put themselves first. 

I actually went up to a lot of happy looking people and asked “How can I make myself happy?” The most popular answer was to put yourself first.

Genuinely happy people understand that it isn’t selfish to put yourself first. Happy people understand that in order to be at their maximum they need time to themselves, and they often need to put their needs ahead of everyone else’s.

Thing is, for a lot of people it is not easy to put yourself first. Lot’s of us feel guilty when we do that We think we’re selfish. And if that sounds like you, then I’ve got new for you. Firstly, you deserve to be happy (read that). And secondly, you need to know how to put yourself first (so, er, read that too).

2: They challenge a fear as it happens

Happy people understand that fear is the chief enemy of happiness. In my research I met many happy people who intentionally found and overcame their fears. They included a forty year old woman who had just been to the dentists, whom she dreads, and a rock climber who constantly sought out new challenges.

So how do you handle fear? Well. You face fear the warrior way. And then you learn to live without fear completely.

3: They have a reason for living

Every single happy person that I met could tell me in one sentence what their main reason for living is. Their reasons were wide ranging. Some lived to write novels, some lived for family, some wanted to make millions, and others lived simply to make other people happy.

But what is your reason for living?

Let me show you how I found purpose in life. Or, if you already know your purpose, let me hear about it Leave a comment below.

4: They accept that life is constant change

The happiest people are at peace with the fact that the world is constantly changing. They understand that their current reality is temporary. They know that good times end, bad times end, people move on, career take new paths. They understand and they embrace it all.


5: They’re unapologetic about their desires

When I asked people “What can I do to make myself happy” a lot of them said they never apologize for their desires.

The happiest people in the world know what they want and they’re not about to apologize for it. Whether they want money, to travel the world, to or to be the boss of their company, they accept and embrace their desires. They live life to the beat of their own drum.


6: Money is no problem

Happy people who have money share it. Happy people who don’t have money don’t worry about it. The former love giving and sharing their luxuries. The latter have faith that everything will be alright in the end. And they all know that some thing are worth a lot more than money.

Do you have a negative relationship with money? If so, learn to change the way you think about money here.

7: They don’t enter the popularity contest

Happy people know who they are and they accept who they are 100%.  Because they accept themselves completely they don’t feel a need to be accepted or liked by others. If you like them, great, but if you don’t they’re not about to get bent out of shape over it.


8: Rejection is protection

A lot of people fear rejection, whether that’s rejection from a job interview or rejection from a member of the opposite sex. Happy people don’t worry about it. Happy people know that the reason they’re rejected is because something better is coming along.


9: We’re all equal

Happy people believe that all people are equal. They know that money, looks, and all that jazz don’t really reflect how good or bad a person is. They treat all people equally, with the utmost respect.


10: We are one

Happy people know that all people are one. They feel the pain and sorrow of other people, but they also feel the happiness and joy of other people. Because they feel connected to everyone around them, they never feel lonely. They see a stranger as a companion, a colleague as a friend.

Oneness is the absolute number one way to be happy. But just how exactly do you become one with the universe? To help you out, I’ve written a guide to achieving oneness. I challenge you to take a look. It will be a real eye opener.

Happy people know how to live life happily. I’m going to make the most of these 10 tips I’ve learnt from happy people.


okay, there we are, my answer to “how can I make myself happy?” If you have a question you would like to ask please write in.

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