When I Meditate I Cry. What’s Going On?

A reader wrote in to us today saying, “When I meditate I cry. What’s going on? Why does meditation make me cr?, I thought it was supposed to make me relaxed and happy, but I always start crying. Weird.”

Thanks for your question.

There are lots of different reasons why meditation could be making you cry.

But for starters, ask yourself, “Am I really crying?”

Sometimes when meditating your eyes water, which can feel like crying but is ]different.

Your eyes water when you meditate because they are simply relaxing and cleansing themselves. When you’re living a busy life it’s fairly easy to see how dirt and toxins can get into your eyes. If you smoke, for instance, your eyes will soon fill with toxins that need to be expelled. Then again, maybe you don’t smoke but you work outdoors, in which case you may be getting various substances in your eyes.

Those substances can sometimes remain in your eyes for hours. Normally, your eyes will cleanse themselves through blinking (you can read more about this on NKCF.org). But various things can interfere with this process. If you work on a computer all day, for instance, you will blink less than you should. This prevents your eyes from cleansing themselves until you later relax—perhaps while you’re meditating, when your eyes will relax enough to clean themselves.

This is just one of many signs that your body is relaxing. You might notice many similar things when you practice a body scan meditation (which is a meditation designed to relax your entire body).

So one potential reason for your eyes watering during meditation is because they are cleaning themselves.

 

But perhaps meditation does make you cry—truly cry. In which case, you’re not alone.

The main reason you cry when you meditate is because of underlying emotions and feelings you usually do not permit yourself to face.

Modern society and culture teaches us to suppress our feelings. Friends tell you to get a grip. Parents tell you to grow up. Thee media extols the supposed superiority of the cold heart and the impenetrable mind.

Sadly, putting a barrier up around your emotions is rarely helpful.

You can’t simply shut out your feelings. Sooner or later those feelings are going to bubble to the surface. However, they cannot bubble to the surface while you’ve got your self-constructed emotional wall up around yourself.

While you’re forcing yourself to suppress your emotions you’re putting an awful lot of stress on your muscles, particularly muscles in your neck, shoulders, face, and, yes, in your eyes. You tense up in order to prevent yourself from letting those tears drop. And the tension you build can last a very long time.

Read more about how emotional pain causes physical tension.

You started this bizarre habit of hiding your emotions in childhood. But it only gets worse in adulthood.

As a kid it might not be the most popular thing to show emotions, but you’ll get away with it because you’re a kid. Reaching adulthood you’re expected to be unaffected and unemotional (even though none of us truly are).

So you make your emotional barrier even bigger. And by now next to none of your emotions are coming out (which is one reason why many people show absolutely no emotion until something awful happens, whereupon that barrier simply cannot withstand the force of the emotional tornado knocking against it. The wall comes down, and all those built-up emotions come bursting through you in one go).

But for the most part, as an adult you exist as an emotional vortex contained in an isolation chamber, walls all around your emotions desperately trying to prevent them from breaking free.

This is not healthy. Containing those emotions leads to stress, anxiety, resentment, physical tension and even illness. You have to break down those walls and let those emotions come pouring out before they drown you.

That’s where meditation comes in.

Meditation melts those walls like butter in a pan. Your self-created emotional prison evaporates in the heat of the meditation, in the heat of that mindfulness, that directed consciousness.

Meditation brings calm and acceptance. Meditation breaks down the walls of your mind. Naturally, whatever you’ve been hording under lock and key in your mind, is going to come tumbling out when you meditate.

You meditate. Your emotional prison crumbles. Your mind is freed. The emotions come pouring out. They drop like dew from your eyes. You cry.

But it is a good cry. It is a cry like the caged bird that sings of freedom. It is the cry of your emotions finally set free.

That is why meditation makes you cry.

 

 

If you continue to cry when meditating, it’s a sign

If you keep on crying when your meditate, take it as a sign.

It’s a sign that you need to do more to control your emotions (and note that I mean control your emotions, not “repress” them, which is a very different thing).

Controlling your emotions means you let your emotions out in healthy ways.

There are two great techniques that I recommend you use. Both will help you to let your emotions out in a healthy way.

The first technique is Buddhist insight meditation. This meditation will help you to understand what it happening with your emotions. When you try this technique, don’t be surprised if you find that you have lots of repressed emotions that you’re not letting out. Accept those emotions and give yourself the freedom to express them.

The second technique is Dynamic Meditation. This is a powerful technique in which you truly let all your emotions comes roaring out of you. It is a seriously liberating experience. No other meditation will give you an emotional release quite like dynamic meditation.

Let me know how you get on with those techniques.

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This article was written by Rachel Phillips 

rachel PhillipsRachel Phillips has been meditating for fifteen years and likes to write about meditation and conscious living. Rachel is a contributor to The Daily Meditation. If you like her posts be sure to follow us on Facebook and Twitter for more from her.

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