“We don’t realize that, somewhere within us all, there does exist a supreme self who is eternally at peace.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love
I would like to ask you a question:
How much would you be willing to let go of to have inner peace?
Would you let go of Netflix? Your cellphone? Facebook?
Would you live a minimalist life?
Society tries to sell us our emotions, our happiness, our sense of self worth. We’re given labels to tell us how “successful” we are. We’re told that if we take a package holiday, buy the latest smartphones, drive new cars, we will be happy. It’s society’s lie.
“Inner peace comes from within. Do not seek it without”, reads one inspiring Buddha quote.
Happiness and inner peace are not about possessions. Don’t chase material gain. It will not lead to happiness.
Happiness is a positive energy that comes from within.
Years ago, I promised myself I would let go of materialism. I promised I would let go of status. I promised I would let go of those labels society gives us. I promised I would give up unessential’s and focus on my inner peace.
I told myself that I would not chase after inner peace. I would be content with what is. I would accept my life. I would accept imperfections. I would live in the here and now. I would find complete inner peace with what is.
Even if life wasn’t perfect, I would enjoy the moments and accept the journey of my life.
Here is what the world taught me when I learned to let go: Inner peace is easy when you just let things be.
What should we let go of? And what should we take-up instead?
Here are 10 things to let go of to find inner peace.
- Let go of self judgment
It can be too easy to obsess over how we are feeling.
We’re feeling down, so we tell ourselves so. We start to ask “Why am I feeling low?”.
Unfortunately, when we focus on negative emotions like these, we inadvertently cause them to grow. What we focus on grows. So focusing on negativity grows negativity.
Don’t focus on negative feelings. Focus instead on the world around you, and on living in the present moment.
- Be mindful. Be now.
One of my favorite Wayne Dyer quotes is, “Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.”
Accepting life as it is, letting things be, being conscious of the present moment, these all help with inner peace and happiness.
Try these mindful habits to get started now.
- Let go of the past
What’s past is prologue.
Our past experiences are lessons that teach us what we need to know now. The past is a teacher. We are not our past. We are not constrained by our past.
Learn from the past. Use the past to inform you in the present moment, but focus on now.
- Let go of being right
Life is not about right and wrong. There are infinite perspectives, not “right and wrong”, but a million shades in between.
Let go of being right. Embrace the opinions of others. Let yourself be wrong. Let yourself make mistakes. Embrace it all, because it is all life.
- Let go of bad relationships
Sometimes you have to let go of certain people. If they are meant to be in your life they will catch up.
Letting go of bad relationships gives us the chance to let new relationships begin. Plus, it removes negative energy from our lives.
- Let go of self. Practice compassion and kindness instead
Focusing on ourselves too much blinds us. Not only do we start to stress too much about our current issues, but we deprive ourselves of one of life’s best joys: helping other people.
Practice random acts of kindness and compassion.
- Let go of titles and stature
Society is hellbent on giving us labels. We cannot define people by a job title or a status. People are infinite, unique, wonderful, magical beings. And you’re one of them.
Let go of job titles. Let go of statuses. See yourself for the miraculous energy that is your true being.
- Don’t force false positivity
We all know those people who tell us they have no regrets, no remorse, that they are always positive. And to those people I say: bullshit.
We all experience low times. We have to. Because if we do not experience lows we do not experience the full tapestry of life.
- Get out of your comfort zone
Remember when you were learning to swim. Your mother held you safely in the shallow zone. Then she did the most important thing: she let go. And one way or another, you began to swim, and you made it further into the deep zone, exploring the whole pool.
That’s a great metaphor for life. We can choose to stick in the shallow, safe, comfort zone. Or we can let go and get out of our comfort zone. We can explore life fully.
Might advice? Get out of your comfort zone. Dare to explore.
- Let go of your fears
Fear is a lead weight in the vessel of the human soul. It sinks us. Don’t allow it to stop you from doing…anything.
We all know the old saying, “Feel the fear and do it anyway”. It’s famous for a reason. When we let go of fear we liberate the positive energy within us.
Let go. Let life itself take over. Give up control. Embrace the wild nature of the true world.
How have you learned to let go? Let me know in the comments.