Yay and did Napoleon Hill say unto Jack Canfield “Thou shall set down ten commandments for self improvement plans. . .”
Okay, so that didn’t happen. Nevertheless, it is of the utmost importance in any self improvement / self development or personal development plan that certain rules be understood.
The following ten rules are the key building blocks of all good self improvement plans. This has been compiled out of the best advice from the best self improvement and self help gurus in the world. Some self improvement tips are so dodgy they hurt. But these are the most trustworthy self improvement tips you’ll ever read. Make sure you stick to these commandments throughout your self improvement plan.
The Ten Commandments of Self Improvement plans.
Thou shalt undergo brain training
Your brain truly is amazing, isn’t it? It is the most powerful tool you will ever possess. It is capable of achieving truly remarkably things. But to do that you have to manage your brain effectively. So how do you do that?
There are two main areas for training your brain:
Thou shalt believe in self improvement and the ability to change
Simple. There is no sense in committing to a self improvement plan if you do not genuinely believe in your own ability to grow, to change and to develop. Self improvement takes time. Though there may be a thousand self improvement books saying you can change your life in X
number of days, in reality it takes time. To make sure you put the necessary time in, it’s first necessary to genuinely believe that you are able to grow and to change.
What if you don’t believe in your ability to change? Simple. If you don’t believe in your ability to change, the answer is to find people who have changed for the better. Read books, newspaper etc. Find role models who can make you believe in your ability to grow and develop. Read their stories. they will empower you.
Thou shalt recognize thine own strengths
It is important in self improvement to recognise where you currently are in life. Self improvement is often about the future, about goals down the line, but it’s important to know where you are now, both
in the positive and in the negative. Speaking of which. . .
Thou shalt strengthen thy mind
Your mind is a powerful tool that can be used for both good and evil. When you use your mind effectively you will find true inner strength and will blast through any obstacle you come across. So how do you use your mind in the right way?
Thy Shalt Use Positive Psychology
Positive Psychology is the area of psychology that deals with how to use your mind and brain in positive ways. This is the fabulous area of science that doesn’t focus on what is wrong but instead focuses on what is right.
Because we want yo to master positive psychology, we’ve created in-depth guides to the most important areas of the study.
Start with our guide to positive psychology.
And read these important articles:
Thou Shalt Learn From Life
What is the point in the past if you do not learn from it? Life lessons help you to see what happened in the past so you can make good decisions in the future. And of course you don’t just have to focus on your own past, you can learn life lessons from others too.
Thou shalt recognise thine own weaknesses
The second half of the above. You need to be honest with yourself both in the positive and in the negative. Only by recognising where you currently are can you truly gain control over where you will go. The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. Where are you now?
What if you don’t recognise your strengths an
d weaknesses: In this instance, self awareness is the answer. You need to be aware of where you are at all times in order to keep your feet on the ground and n the right track. The journey of a thousand miles might start with a single step, but you can only take that step with your feet n the ground.
Thou shalt develop self awareness by keeping a journal
So, the two commandments above established the need to have your feet on the ground and to develop self awareness, but how do you do it? The answer is quite simple and comes in two parts (this commandment and the next one). For this first part, begin a journal. Every night before bed, write for ten minutes about the day. Ask yourself what you succeed in, what you could have done better, what you’re happy about and unhappy about etc. This will help keep your feet on the ground.
Thou shalt listen to thyself
Thou shalt commit to a practice of meditation
There are a million and one tools in self improvement. Many of them are brilliant. Many of them are terrible. Some are based on whimsy, some on scientific fact. No self improvement tool has been an extensively tested as meditation. The benefits of meditation are phenomenal. I shant go into them here for two reasons: 1) There are too many to do them justice and 2) Everything you need to know is already right HERE.
Thou shalt take it upon thyself to learn and to discover
There is one trait universal to all self improvement practitioners: they love learning.
Learning really is integral to the entire self improvement process. Self improvement, after all, is all about learning about yourself, about people in general ,about psychology, spirituality and other subjects. It is a natural demand of any self improvement plan that you embrace a love of learning.
Thou shalt not be too hard on thyself
There is a very fine line between recognising your strengths and weaknesses and simply being too hard on yourself. In self improvement, it is imperative to be honest with yourself without being hard on yourself. You want to develop, but you want to feel good about it. For this reason, it is imperative that you always keep your own happiness, peace of mind and mental health as the top-most priorities. If you ever feel that you are becoming too hard on yourself, back off. Yes, self improvement is about pushing yourself, but it’s about pushing yourself through positivity and through encouragement, rather than pushing yourself by constantly shipping yourself.
Thou shalt recognise that change takes time
Along the same lines as the previous commandment. It is important not to feel that you need to see results now. Rushing is a major major weakness. Whether you’re trying to lose weight, to get in shape, to train your brain. . . whatever goal you have, rushing is never the answer. When we rush we feel stressed and being stressed in counterproductive. Recognise that self improvement takes time and give yourself a break.b
Thou shalt recognise that some things are out of thy own control
The final part of not being too hard on yourself is to recognise that not everything is within your control. At times, things will go wrong. Outside influences may interfere or there may be some reason why you simply can’t keep to your self improvement plan. Again, back off and give yourself a break. Any self improvement plan that makes you feel stressed is a BAD self improvement plan!
Recognising that some things are out of your control is one of the best ways to control your anger.
Thou shalt share self improvement with others
Happiness is only real when it’s shared, and so is self improvement. By sharing your self improvement plan with others and by getting other people involved, you don’t only motivate yourself more but you give other people the opportunity to get into self improvement too. Self improvement, if it is worth its weight, must ultimately be about becoming better so we can help other people better. That is the be all and end all. What better way to help others than by sharing self improvement with them?
Thou shalt overcome fear
Fear is the number one thing that prevents you from achieving what you want in life. It’s like the famous quote, “Everything you desire is just on the other side of fear”. Once you power through your fear you will find inner strength and success. But how do you overcome fear?
Read my guide to facing fear in life.
Oh, and don’t forget this all important final tips here.
And one more thing, get some hobbies. Seriously. Science shows that there are very many benefits of having hobbies. Take a look at that link and you will see what I mean.
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