Keep asking yourself “Why am I so unhappy?” Then you need to get out of the cycle of unhappiness. Discover the reason you’re unhappy and what to do about it below.
Let me describe to you a time of personal unhappiness in my life, then tell me if it sounds familiar.
There was a time when I would feel like I have nothing and I would want everything. I was hungry. Hungry for women, for money, for success, for fame (I’m an actor so fame is, in this field, almost like a very large promotion—it’s desired). I craved. I would look at the life I had, determine it as not being good enough and then desire more.
At times, I would get more. There were times when, as an actor, I scored roles I really wanted. There were times when I got lucky in love. There were times when I was popular. I had fortune. Sure, I wasn’t a millionaire and I wasn’t a mega movie star, but I had more than enough to be thankful for. The problem? Instead of being thankful all I could thing was “What next?”
Does this sound familiar to you?
In most society’s around the world today, we are made to want more and more and more. I suppose it is the result of capitalism. Companies want to sell more and more products. How do they sell them? By making you want them. You want the iPhone 700 because the iPhone 699 has been out for a good two months now. . .. Advertising, social statutes and the idea of “keeping up with the Jones’” makes us feel like we need more and more and more. And guess where it stops? That’s right, nowhere.
You get the iPhone 700, the laptop with the four billion gigs RAM and the Porsche that only last month seemed like a fantasy, you enjoy them for what. . . a week? Then suddenly they’re not good enough and you want the next thing.
It’s not just products. Some people are the same way about relationships. Some people want new relationships all the time, others just want their relationship to get better and better and better, thinking it’s never good enough.
Nothing ever seems good enough.
Sounds like a recipe for depression to me.
The idea of having more and more and more is never going to lead you or I to happiness. We will never be content while looking for faults in things, while looking for ways things could be better.
“Why I am so unhappy?” you ask. Because you are caught in the cycle or more and more, better and better. And that cycle is not conducive to happiness nor contentment.
Thankfully, there is a way out of this knot. The way out of this knot of unhappiness is easy to understand, yet a challenge in application. The way out of the knot is this:
Realise is it all bullshit.
Yes. It is bullshit. The idea of needing more and more and more is the most absurd, stupid, depressing and fruitless way you could possibly live your life. You will never genuinely be happy while looking for faults, while asking how things could be better, while wondering what comes next, while desiring the next best thing.
So how do you become happy? The answer is to accept life as it is, to focus on the present moment, to live in the here and now.
As I previously stated, that’s an easy idea to comprehend, but it is perhaps not so easy to apply. That’s why I’m suggesting this list of recommended reading on how to let go and live in the present moment. Some of the articles below are 100% free—you can read them here on this site. The remainder are books to purchase. All of these, however, meet the same aim: they instruct in how to live in the present moment, how to stop the cycle of wanting more and more In other words, they instruct how to be happy, now.
Here are the articles and books I recommend.
Stop Asking “Why am I so Unhappy” by reading these. . .
Our articles on using meditation for depression and meditation for anxiety.
Mindfulness in plain english — explains meditation and mindfulness in simple terms. Very useful title.
Authentic Happiness — Positive psychology of happiness. Get this if you’re into science and psychology and want some great exercises on being happy
The Power of Now — living in the present moment and finding inner peace by being present (extremely helpful in getting over the MORE MORE MORE, BETTER BETTER BETTER attitude)