You want to maximize your potential and be your absolute best. Then you need to start tracking these 6 everyday habits for success.
It’s funny how everyone gets caught up on the major changes in their lives. Going on diets every now and then. Suddenly deciding that they need to hit the gym, then stopping a couple months later. Picking up a brand new self help book to change their lives and then not actually implementing what the book instructed.
Ha. I guess we’re all human after all.
But listen. The point is this. If you’re always focusing on major changes in your life, you’re not paying enough attention to the little everyday habits that make you who you are.
Let’s just think about this for a sec. Let’s say we want to stay in shape. So we suddenly go on a diet for a couple of months. Sure we lose weight during that time. But afterwards we’re likely to put the weight back on again.
Wouldn’t it be better to change the fundamental everyday habits that make us who we are?
You can gamble on maybes. Or you can follow the few certainties about success. The following habits are things that will help you for certain.
Let’s ditch this crazy fad of binge-lifestyling. Let’s transform ourselves by changing essential everyday habits for success.
Let’s decide to focus on those littler everyday habits that form the real tapestry of our lives.
Only question is: Which habits should we focus on?
Most people have a million and one habits. And most of those habits are little, inconsequential things, like checking your email when you get home from work.
But then there are bigger, more important habits. There are habits that can legitimately change your life.
Let’s take a look at the absolute most important everyday habits in your life. No matter how you personally define success, these habits will help you to get there.
Habit 1:Conquering a fear like a champion
Your fears are roadblocks holding you back from becoming what you want to be.
When you face a fear you have two choices. Choice one is to run away from the fear. You don’t go to the dentist because you’re worried about your teeth. So your teeth get worse until a minor problem is suddenly a root canal.
Choice two is to overcome the fear and act in spite of it. You go to the dentist and get your teeth done. Maybe it hurts a little, ickle bit. But soon the problem is copletely done and dusted.
So which strategy is going to be better for you in the long run? Facing the fear, of course.
It takes 21days to change a habit, according to Maria Popova over at BrainPickings.org. So by the time you get to day 21 of facing your fears, you will have taught yourself to conquer any fear that comes your way. You’ll learn that fears aren’t a big deal. Soon you’ll be fearless. Imagine how much more powerful you would be without fear! To quite Trace Dominquez from Testtube.com “If you didn’t have any fear, you would probably die…” Thanks Trace! (Actually you should check out that link, he makes some really great points regarding the role of fear in your life).
Habit 2: Don’t focus on that huge gap between you and your goals. Focus on where you are now and what you can do right now.Count the baby steps. They’ll add up to success.
You know what holds most people back from having the body they really want? The fact that they don’t focus on the exercise that they could do now, they focus on all the things they can’t do. They don’t focus on how healthy they are, but how healthy they want to be.
You’re probably at least reasonable healthy right now, right? But you want to be super fit. In your mind you see the massive gap between where you are and where you want to be. And that gap seems so big that you decide it’s impossible.
Now imagine if you didn’t focus on that gap. Imagine if you just focused on exercising a bit more.
You could do that, right?
If you’re fit right now, you can add a little bit more exercise, a manageable amount of exercise. By gradually increasing the amount of exercise you’re doing you would gradually achieve the body you want.
Don’t focus on the massive gap between you and your goal. Just focus on gradually improving a little bit. Focus on what you can do today.
Habit 3: Spend way more time focusing on how you can help other people
There’s one psychological guarantee in life that I think is a real eye-opener. That guarantee is that if you do nice things for other people other people will do nice things for you.
Kindness is contagious. That’s been psychologically proven. So if you are kind to other people and you help other people achieve what they want, they will be kind to you and help you achieve what you want. And that way everyone wins.
Not to mention the fact that kindness is unbelievably good for your health and can even ward off certain ailments and illnesses.
And yes, being kind is just… awesome. It’s the trait of the enlightened.
Habit 4: Are you talking to you? Then be nice about it FFS
Way too many people talk to themselves in less than exemplary fashion.
Positive self talk is one of the most important everyday habits for success.
You do something wrong so you go all mental at yourself in your own head. Nah. Science has proven how damaging negative self talk can be. Writing for WebMD, Joanne Barker says, “Self-talk isn’t just mindless chatter. It has a way of creating its own reality. Telling yourself you can do something can help it happen. Telling yourself you can’t do something can make that come true.”
To be happy, productive, and successful, you have to stop trashing on yourself.
Funny thing is, you’re probably a nice person, right? Your friends probably think you’re really friendly and kind. Because, let’s face it, every time you talk to someone else you treat them special.
But then you get to talking to yourself. And oh snap if you don’t half change in a split second.
You don’t talk to yourself like you talk to other people. You’re lovely to everyone else. Then you treat yourself like crud and put yourself down.
Quit it. Just quit it. That attitudes not going to get you anywhere.
You’ve got to be your own best friend. You’ve got to love yourself.
No, really. This is important. You’ve got to show yourself the kindness you show other people, all right? Just do it.
Habit 5: Use those two things on the side of your head more.
One of the most obvious everyday habits for success is just to listen.
You know those people who jabber on and on and on and never let you get a word in edge-ways.
Whew-eeeee those people can test your patience.
Everyone gets annoyed with people who can’t listen. And people who can’t listen are in danger of not having a jiminy crickets what the who is going on.
So use your ears more.
Actually, to be fair, if you’re one of our Facebook followers then you probably are a good listener. Because honestly almost all our followers are awesome.
But even if you’re a good listen, you can still be better.
The better you get at listening the more aware you’ll be. It’s like stepping into The Matrix, having good hearing. When you shut up and listen you’re suddenly so alive to what’s occurring around you.
Oh, and plus, people love good listeners. So… there’s that.
Habit 6: Get out of your head and into the world
Another of the most important every day habits for success is to stay out of your own head.
If there’s one habit that separates all those oh so happy successful people from the rest it’s this: they’re not suck in their own head.
Most people’s heads are like Chinese finger traps. You know, those tubes that you stick your finger in and the more you fight it the stickier it gets. The only way out is to relax. Then your finger is freed.
Same deal with the human mind. The more you fight what’s going on in your mind the more trapped you’ll become.
So what is the pathway to liberty from your own mind?
One word: Mindfulness.
Focus your mind on external reality, on the present moment. You know, basically what Yoda said (and Buddha, Rumi, Lao Tzu…).
Be mindful of the present moment and you’ll escape your own mind. That’s basically the “Dummies Guide To Being Happy.”
Focus on reality. Get out your own head.
These 6 habits are the most important every day habits for success. They’re so important that I sometimes want to scream them to myself. Honestly, if we all practice these six habits we’re all going to be a lot happier, a lot more productive, and a lot more successful. So let’s get to it!
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