Millions of people all ask the same questions: What is happiness? Where does happiness come from? Will I ever be happy? What are some ways how to be happy with yourself.
Probably every person on the planet has asked these questions at some point in their lives. They seek out tips for happiness in life, read pages and pages of books on the subject, watch movies, listen to lectures and speeches all designed to help them to find happiness.
There is, however, one inherent problem with this search for being happy, one limitation to all articles that aim to tell you how to get happiness in life. That problem is that they take attention away from the present moment.
Why is that such a problem? Because authentic happiness (a coin termed by positive psychology) is nothing more than acceptance of the present moment. Happiness is found by focussing on the moment, on your environment, not by thinking about how t be happy with yourself and by plaguing yourself with such questions. With this in mind, it‘s not an exaggeration to say there are no ways to find happiness. There is, however, a way havehappiness find you.
How to be happy with yourself by letting happiness find you
The way how to be happy with yourself, somewhat ironically, is to stop trying; to stop thinking so much, stop trying so hard. The psychology of happiness, you see, is a lot like my cat, Tibby. If you go to pick her up, she’ll run away at light speed. But if you just sit there ignoring her, she’ll leap up into your lap and nuzzle-up to you for hours. And so is happiness. when you ask “Will I ever be happy” it’s like asking “will the cat ever let me pick it up when I go to get her?” The answer to both is no. The cat comes when you are still. And so it is with happiness.
Happiness will not come when you try to force it. The best way how to be happy with yourself is to stop trying. All these people buying happy beads, reading their daily positive thoughts and seeking out the keys to happiness are going about things the wrong way. Want proof? Okay, try this….
After you’ve finished reading this paragraph, set the computer down on the table or wherever, stop thinking for five or ten minutes and simply focus on some element of your external environment; meditate on it and notice what happens. Just try it, right now. Leave the computer on and simply focus for five to ten minutes on some part of the environment. Notice how much more relaxed and happy you become simply performing this one simple task.
In a sec we’ll unveil why letting go creates happiness, but in order to fully explain the psychology involved here, we first need to ask an important question. . . Article continues. . .